Well, now we have made the move. It's almost been a whole month and it is now just starting to feel like home. We still have a ways to go but that feeling is starting to grow. We're getting more comfortable and settling into a routine, which helps. And, life has changed a whole hell of a lot -- in very good ways and in all of the ways I had hoped for.
We are out and about more often
I swear, there is a buzz in the air with this city. I've never been more motivated to get out and do things. We get out way more often than we ever did in Danbury (or anywhere, actually). This might have something to do with the lack of a backyard too. We go to farmers markets, concerts, and do all the touristy stuff. We practically live at Prospect Park and the playgrounds. We have picnics and haunt the splash pads. We walk everywhere and are so busy that Ethan has even started to nap again!
We're more social
We've barely been here a month and have made a few friends already. I posted a message in the local listserv looking for other stay-at-home-parents that would like to get together and make some new connections. Meet-ups were set and that was that. Now as a shy and introverted person this was pretty easy. It was so hard finding friends back in Danbury. We would never see the same people twice at the parks, and there were no real local groups that were busy enough and even then people would think I was a weirdo creeper for wanting to meet new people. Here it seemed normal. We've even met others who have moved from the suburbs with their families, so it's nice to have that to relate to.
It's a no-brainer, really. We walk everywhere; to the dentist, the pediatrician, the grocery store, or just to get out of the apartment. I've already lost a lot of that annoying weight that just hung around for a while. I'm not doing anything but walking. It's really nice to just walk out of the front door and go. To finally be able to do it after all these years is just awesome.
We have more time
Before the move I'd dream about having more free time because of not having a yard to tend to or a house to maintain. And now, we really do. After 7 years of seemingly endless mowing, pruning, raking, and home repairs, we have nothing to do and it feels AMAZING. I don't have to worry about the outside of our apartment or even any repairs inside for that matter. What a huge weight lifted off of our shoulders (and our bank account). We have more time to have fun and relax. You can't beat that.
Of course, we still have our shitty days and what not, but overall we are all much happier here. I think it may have a lot to do with how Jason and I have changed. Kids sense stressed-out unhappy parents, and we were very unhappy in our home back in Danbury. After the move it has really dawned on me just how miserable we were there. What a waste of years. This move has pushed a reset button on our family and we're closer together and just happier. Finally, all of this feels normal.
I still can't believe it's been a month. It seems a lifetime ago and yesterday all at once. I'm so happy to be raising our kids here. They don't know how lucky they are, really. Everything is in their backyard; at their fingertips. It's all here. We're here!
|City kids! They're definitely getting more comfortable here.|
|At the park--or our backyard.|